finally!! Single again in all docs.

Thank you Lord, i am soo happy today coz i already changed my name from married name back to my maiden name again, my status, from married to single again, i also omitted my X-husband's name on the list of my beneficiary... no problem now with my SSS, Philhealth, and Pag-ibig...

July 29, 2010...

well i just wanna share that i already have my Annotated Marriage Contract today.. yiieppieee!!!
of course i am excited to show it to honey when we online, but i already called him and told that docs. already on hand... i also fixed my SSS, went there to change my status and to get back my maiden name again... and last i went to Philhealth to do the same thing and omit my X-husband's name on my beneficiary's list... but the Philhealth office is requiring me to submit an affidavit of name discrepancy bcoz on my BC and PH data base my name there is MARIA but on my MC its only Ma. so tomorrow i will go back to PH office to submit all the necessary docs.

tired, signing off now... been to manila and just arrived here in Quezon..

tina

my tuesday, 07/27/10

this morning really i am not feeling well coz my eye pressure went up so i put an eye drop on it and now my eye is fine.. not been so busy at work today, but the weather here is rainy and been worried to my honey coz he have a sprain on his ankle but still he needs to go to his training, hope it heal soon... but really soo glad that i talked to him before he go to the field at least i knew what happened to him...

when got home i also have a surprised gift from my friend, she gave me a perfume and a soap (coco- chanel and dove soap)... tomorrow i will drop by to our bank branch here before i go to work, signing off now will go to bed....

Friendship....

School is where we first begin to socialize. It's the first ever moment of life that demands us to seek beyond ourselves. Making friends at school, for some kids is a daunting task, but nonetheless each child finds a friend. As school years are the shaping years of our life, we learn lessons that probably no text book can compete. Most of the lessons learned are, because the friends around us believe that we can. The first moments of achievements, of failure, of love, of laughter, of loss, of gain and of change are shared with friends. This is the reason why they become an integral part of us and etch the journey of finding friendship.

Value that is found in friendships:

• the tendency to desire what is best for the other
• sympathy and empathy
• honesty, perhaps in situations where it may be difficult for others to speak the truth, especially in terms of pointing out the perceived faults of one's counterpart
• mutual understanding and compassion
• trust in one another; able to go to each other for emotional support

which is better....? K1 or IR1/CR1... ur choice...

Marriage Based Visa Comparison Table

Visa Type:
K-1 or IR- 1/ CR- 1

Marital Status:
Engaged/ Married

Approximate Time to get Visa:
6 Months/ 7 months

Requires Adjustment of Status?:
Yes/ No

Requires EAD to Work (with valid Visa and before AOS approved)?:
Yes/ No ( see notes )

Requires AP to Travel Outside the US (with valid Visa and before AOS approved)?:
Yes/ No ( see notes )

Approximate Total Time to become Legal Permanent Resident:
12 Months / 7 months

Approximate Total Cost (USCIS Petition, Medical, Visa, AOS if required):
USD $1805 / USD $945

Extra Notes:
K1- Must be married and file for AOS within 90 days of entering the US (as to not accrue unlawful status).

IR-1/CR-1 Visa holder automatically becomes a Legal Permanent Resident after entering the US. Can work and travel freely.
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Fiancé(e) Visa (K1)
In General

A K-1 Visa allows a Non-US Citizen Fiancé(e) to a US Citizen to legally enter the US and Adjust Status to become a Legal Permanent Resident. The process of obtaining a K-1 Visa starts by the U.S. citizen filing a form "I-129F: Petition for Alien Fiancé(e)" with the USCIS (United States Citizenship and Immigration Services). The USCIS is responsible for processing this petition and if approved will forward (via the National Visa Center) the petition to the consulate serving the location of the Non-US Citizen Fiancé(e).

Upon receiving the approved I-129F petition, the US Consulate will contact the Non-US Citizen Fiancé(e) and request certain information be gathered and provided to the US Consulate. Additionally there will be an actual "visa interview" in person (at the consulate) for the K-1 Visa. If the embassy approves the K-1 Visa, they will issue the visa typically within two to three days after the interview.

Once the Non-US Citizen Fiancé(e) receives the K-1 Visa they may enter the US any time within six months of the visa being issued. Arriving in the US it is important to note that they must get married to the US Citizen who petitioned their K-1 Visa within 90 days and file for Adjustment of Status (AOS) to become a Legal Permanent Resident. If they fail to do this within 90 days of entry into the US they may accrue unlawful status inside the US as defined by the USCIS. This may potentially affect future immigration benefits they file for. Total time estimated: Roughly 6 months. You may view the K-1 current and historical processing time trends to get a better idea of the time the process may take at various stages. Unless an engaged couple decides to get married, this is their main visa option. If they decide to get married they will need to file for a K-3 or IR-1 / CR-1 Visa instead.

Pluses

"Relatively" fast process. As fast or quicker than K-3 and/or IR1 / CR-1 Visas (which are only available to married couples).

Once in the US and married, the K-1 Visa Holder may obtain a social security card, Employment Authorization Document (EAD), and seek employment legally within the US. As a note, typically an EAD is applied for at the same time as the K-1 Visa Holder files for AOS (after marriage). Generally an EAD is issued within 90 days of the application being received.

The K-1 Visa allows for a "get to know your fiance better" period before marriage, since the visa is good for 90 days. The Non-US Citizen Fiancé(e) must marry the US Citizen and apply for AOS to remain in the US. If they do not marry there are no other methods to remain in the US and they must return home.

Minuses

The K-1 Visa Holder will need to apply for Advance Parole (AP) if they wish to travel outside of the US while their AOS application is being processed and not yet approved. Leaving without an approved (and in hand) AP will result in abandoning the pending AOS application and require filing for a new visa (either K-3 or IR-1/CR-1) to re-enter the US.

In nearly all cases, if the marriage fails prior to the K-1 Visa Holder's AOS application being approved there are no other options for legally remaining inside the United States; the K-1 Visa Holder will be required to leave the US.

A K-1 Visa Holder only has "valid status" for 90 days after they enter the US (and must be married and apply for AOS by that time to not accrue "unlawful status". This 90 day window may not be extended.

Only U.S. citizens can file for a fiance visa.
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Spousal Visa (IR1 / CR1)
In General

A IR-1 / CR-1 Visa allows a Non-US Citizen (spouse) married to a US Citizen (see note at end) to legally enter the US, immediately becoming a Legal Permanent Resident upon entry. This option may take longer than obtaining a K-3 Visa. If a couple wishes to pursue this visa they must be legally married (or get married before starting the process). The couple may have previously been married either outside or within the US (the location does not matter as long as the marriage was officially recognized in the location in which it occurred).

The process of obtaining a IR-1 / CR-1 Visa starts by the U.S. citizen filing a form "I-130: Petition for Alien Relative" with the USCIS (United States Citizenship and Immigration Services). This form is also filed if a couple intends to obtain a K-3 Visa (see above section). The USCIS is responsible for processing the I-130 and if approved will forward the petition to the National Visa Center (NVC). The NVC may request certain information be provided to them (initial case processing) prior to forwarding the completed package to the consulate serving the location of the Non-US Citizen Spouse.

The visa processing at the US Consulate is similar to other family visas such as the K-1 and K-3 however the IR-1 / CR-1 Visa is an "Immigrant Visa", which means the Non-US Citizen Spouse will upon receiving their visa and entering the US immediately become a Legal Permanent Resident. Their "green card" will be mailed to them shortly after their arrival. As a Legal Permanent Resident they may work and travel to and from the US freely using their "green card" and status as a Legal Permanent Resident.

Total time estimated: Roughly 7 months. You may view the IR-1 / CR-1 Visa current and historical processing time trends to get a better idea of the time the process may take at various stages. A married couple may also file for a K-3 Visa while waiting for their I-130 to be approved. This is done by filing an I-129F after the I-130 has been received by the USCIS. See the above section for details.

Note: Technically, a US Legal Permanent Resident can apply for this visa for their Non-US Citizen Spouse however the waiting time is up to five years. They can file and wait for a visa number to become available (again up to five years) or wait until they themselves become a US Citizen -- whichever comes first will allow the visa process to move forward immediately.

Pluses

This is an "Immigrant" Visa and will as such allow the applicant to arrive in the US as a Legal Permanent Resident.

After entry into the US, as a Permanent Resident they may seek employment without restrictions. No Employment Authorization Document (EAD) is required.

After entry into the US, as a Permanent Resident they will not require special permission to leave the US for travel. No Advance Parole (AP) document is required.

IR1/CR1 Visas often do not take much longer than the K-3 Visa option. The benefit of entering the US and immediately becoming a US Legal Permanent Resident (Green Card Holder) to many people is worth the additional small wait in time.


Minuses

Separation from family may be longer than if filing for a K-3 Visa (or K-1 visa for a non-married fiance). The applicant will most likely not be able to enter the US while their IR1-CR-1 Visa is being processed.

Distant Love Poems....

The Love I long for...

So far away and yet so very close,
I yearn for your love with the greatest of hope.
To meet you, my sweet lover, I'm trying to cope.
The touch of your hand, the look in your eyes
The feel of your soft lips will soon arise.
Together we will be, one day soon
Patience is a virtue you have crooned.
So until then my love, I will wait
Dreaming of you ….

A Distant Love

Don't let the miles between us
Keep our love apart
Just listen close and you will hear
The beating of my heart

No distance, will ever keep
My heart from loving you
There are no more tears for it to weep
For a love that runs so true

I'll be there with you one day soon
To love you everyday
And then my heart will sing a tune
And you will hear it say

I've finally found my one true love
As true as one can be
And now your all I'm thinking of
Forever stay with me

Two Hearts...

two different countries and thousands of miles apart
and yet its our love for each other we feel in our hearts
time and distance could not change what we both feel
for we have felt the pain and know what is real
some have said we would never make it even a year
and yet over a year has gone by and still our love is here
i only know that soon this journey will come to an end
and two loving hearts shall be joined together again
and on that special day we become husband and wife
it shall only be the beginning of a wonderful life..

Happy Mother's Day!!!.

God our Creator, we pray:
for new mothers, coming to terms with new responsibility ;
for expectant mothers, wondering and waiting;
for those who are tired, stressed or depressed;
for those who struggle to balance the tasks of work and family;
for those who are unable to feed their children due to poverty;
for those whose children have physical, mental or emotional disabilities;
for those who have children they do not want;
for those who raise children on their own;
for those who have lost a child;
for those who care for the children of others;
for those whose children have left home;
and for those whose desire to be a mother has not been fulfilled.
Bless all mothers, that their love may be deep and tender,
and that they may lead their children to know and do what is good,
living not for themselves alone, but for God and for others.
Amen.


to mommy happy mother's day.. i love u and thank you for all the things you've done to me and to our family.... to my son, i want u to know that i love u very much... and i will do anything for u... to keep u safe, alive and happy.... just please help mama, be a good boy always...

Fathers are wonderful people

Fathers are wonderful people
Too little understood,
And we do not sing their praises
As often as we should...

For, somehow, Father seems to be
The man who pays the bills,
While Mother binds up little hurts
And nurses all our ills...

And Father struggles daily
To live up to "HIS IMAGE"
As protector and provider
And "hero or the scrimmage"...

And perhaps that is the reason
We sometimes get the notion,
That Fathers are not subject
To the thing we call emotion,

But if you look inside Dad's heart,
Where no one else can see
You'll find he's sentimental
And as "soft" as he can be...

But he's so busy every day
In the grueling race of life,
He leaves the sentimental stuff
To his partner and his wife...

But Fathers are just WONDERFUL
In a million different ways,
And they merit loving compliments
And accolade of praise,

For the only reason Dad aspires
To fortune and success
Is to make the family proud of him
And to bring them happiness...

And like OUR HEAVENLY FATHER,
He's a guardian and a guide,
Someone that we can count on
To be ALWAYS ON OUR SIDE.

how to be a great wife...

1. First get to know what kind of a person u are

To expect anything from your husband, first try to know yourself - what you are, what you can give in your relationship and what you cannot…. because you cannot expect from him the things, you urself cannot do for him. For instance, if you cannot withstand him having a relationship with any other woman outside your marriage, then how can you dare to expect that he will allow you to make boyfriends? Its well said:

“Treat others the way you want yourself to be treated………”

Always think twice, before you make heavy demands or complain for something which you otherwise have never been able to fulfill, if asked for.

2. Do not ignore your own feelings

Do not ever agree on what you do not believe in, to avoid further frustration. You must feel good to do good or this will encourage negative vibes between you two. With this; you will start feeling yourself being misunderstood.

But this does not mean that you straightaway reject what your husband asks you to go for, rather the situation demands from you that initially, you say ‘okay’ whether somebody else is present or not, and try to express yourself later on about what you think about the matter, so that he should be able to understand your feelings. Give each other some time for better understanding.

Your instant opposition will make him feel offended thereby presenting a wrong image of yours in his mind. He will think that you do not respect him due to which he will never be able to give you that much respect.

3. Stay ever charming n attractive!

Young lady, do not ever dare to neglect your oomph….factor. The only thing in you that can always make you feel wanted n appreciated, is your sexual confidence. It will never let your husband crave for anybody else outside your marriage. If you want your husband to remain attractive as ever, then he also expects the same from you to make him proud.

Some women take, the love of their husband, for granted and never bother their own fading physical charm. Such women remain in the illusion that love is blind; “whether I look attractive or not, he will always love me.” And here only, they commit a big mistake; love can be blind but not your man….. Men need to see what they want to touch. So, dear, just think once again, before its too late.

4. Say yes to love-making at least once a week

Love-making is in fact, one of the main ingredients that build up a long-lasting marriage. Avoiding it may play havoc with your married life. So, try to respect the physical desires of your husband; do not take it as being something vulgar or obscene. After all, being more than mere husband-wife, you are life partners and if both of you wont be open with each other then with who else you will express ur physical desires.

Actually, men are more expressive in this matter as compared to women. So, if you consider your husband's physical demands as being vulgar, then he will feel offended and start seeking a better company outside. So, its time to change your attitude. Try to play with each others bodies; after all it’s the basic need of a human being. So, move ahead and let your sexiness overrule your senses and see the magic it brings to your relationship!!!

5. Devote some quality time to each other

Everyday, ask each other if any of you two felt bad about something in general. Then try to support and assure that you are always there for him, whatever happens. But being a good wife, never expect him to say anything first. Why don’t you break the ice. Maybe next time the initiative is from the other side! So, change your attitude and enjoy each other’s company.

6. Have some tolerance power. Don’t give up so easily

A bit of patience in a good relationship advice to keep your marriage working. It gives you a ‘no problem’ kind of an attitude which has been proven to be a hit formula many a times. When you are cool, your husband can’t carry on his argument for longer.

And the other way is to love yourself for what you are and what you do……don’t panic, if you are a housewife or a working woman. Try continuously to make yourself better n better instead feeling inferior, rather be always on a mission to improve yourself each day, with every experience.

But what will you do if your husband still keeps offending you in front of others? Definitely, your answer will be, “I will give up…” isn’t that so?

But no dear friend, its not so easy to live alone, whatever you say. In this situation, you should arrange sometime to spend with each other, at any cost, and you just say (not complain), “dear, have I done something very wrong? Please let me know….. I will never do so again because I really love you and can’t see you being irritated with me. Why do you offend me in front of others? Have I ever done so with you? Infact, I always respect you so much then what is there that makes you behave in such a manner?” Inspite of this, if he pays no heed, then its up to you. You are free to do whatever you feel is right. The only thing is, not to give up so easily. Try your best, and if all useless, then just follow your instinct.

The only thing is don't ever give up unless he makes you sick or drives you crazy. After all, nobody is perfect. Even if he's 51%, keep him.


7. Praise your mate whole-heartedly

Make sure that you praise your partner at least once every day. Try to mention new things that you really admire in your partner. This will definitely work for your relationship. Being sincere in your way of complimenting your partner, you can give a new direction to your relationship because nobody from outside is going to take pains to save your marriage. After all, who cares! Its only you and your husband who can do something.

See, what happens after 40, when your kids are away for studies, then your husband becomes more willing to share his own feelings and experiences with you. As a matter of fact, when men get older, they need more cherishing, and in the case of women, they need more respect. But life comes in phases and plateaus; you can’t have it all today only. You should save some for tomorrow. Your family is such a precious gift that will keep on giving back throughout life. So, be a good team member.

And if you follow this relationship advice to become better, then I assure you that other women will start becoming jealous of you on hearing your husband saying,

“I am proud of my beautiful & wise wife. She is the best.”

Now its up to you, how you make your dream come true…… all the very best to you!!!

how to be a great husband...

1. Be romantic. What "being romantic" means varies widely from person to person, but at its core, romance involves doing something to express affection in a meaningful yet unexpected way. A true act of romance requires creativity and sincerity, often inspired by love (either its presence or its possibility).

# Reintroduce the excitement that characterized the beginning of the relationship. Do something different, something that your wife wouldn't expect. The more out of the ordinary, the better!

# Treat your wife like they're single, like you're trying to earn her affection and trust. The opposite of being romanced is being taken for granted. No one wants to feel like they've already been "caught" and it's over and done with.

# There are millions of ways to say "I love you" and "I'm lucky to have you." Think of the world as your medium. You can write it, say it, sculpt it, look it, hide it, shout it, paint it, kiss it, fold it, grow it, touch it, and express it in unlimited ways.

2. Keep your sex life invigorated. Kiss her goodbye in the morning like you don't want her to leave. It gives her something to think about all day. Be romantic. Suggest new ideas. Ask what she likes. Be willing to put her pleasure ahead of yours. Talk about it. Let her know it is much more than just sex. Intimacy (emotional and physical closeness) is important to women. Don't use sex to apologize. Apologize first, then see what happens!

3. Take care of her. Your wife may feel overwhelmed with kids and work. Don't hesitate to cook her favorite food or make her favorite drink. Help with the kids and help around the house (like doing dishes). Wives aren't superwomen as much as you'd like them to be.


4. Be honest. In a mature relationship, honesty is the best policy. It may be difficult, but the truth will allow relationships to breathe. No matter what happens, no one can ever challenge the fact that you are truthful, which might mean that the other person also gives you the same respect. If something doesn't suit them let them know, otherwise they will not trust your opinion. But make it sound like a compliment. Suggest an alternative, and attach praise to the alternative. For example, if they ask you if you like something they are trying on (trying on, not already wearing at a party!) let them know that it might work, but you think the blue one is your favourite so far because it shows off their great (insert a feature you appreciate, preferably not one that they are self-conscious about). It's not going to be easy to be honest and kind at the same time, so focus on learning how to give a feedback sandwich and you'll both be better off.

5. Don't brush your wife off. People often find it exasperating when they get the feeling their partner treats them as an inferior in a relationship. Women are no exception. A lot of people have been taught that the only way to get attention when their partner is trying to ignore them is to act more emotional and be louder until the partner finally surrenders and pays attention to her, even if in annoyance. If people feel they're being given the cold treatment by people who are supposed to be important to them, they get worried. Especially when it happens without you giving an explanation for why this disturbance has occurred. People aren't mind readers. Your mate is not likely to be able to guess that you're cranky just because they wouldn't let you do something that they felt was very trivial, whereas you found it important. If you know that your mood might lead you to overreact, simply say "I'm feeling really irritated right now. Can we talk about this later after I cool off a bit?" (Don't forget to follow through and actually give her your time later.)

6. Communicate. Do not talk her ear off, however make sure that if you have any problems that will affect your mood, she is made aware of the reasons for your problems and mood, so that you do not appear to merely be a fickle and cranky creature. Zone out everything around you when you're talking to her. If you ask her a question, ask because you really want to know. For example, ask her what type of movies she enjoys, or about one of her favourites. If you know it, talk about it a little bit in an honest way, what you thought of it, and make a guess at why she might have liked it. Even if you are wrong, your mate will usually love the fact that you are interested enough to try. Remember, the opposite of talking is not waiting, it's listening. Make sure you're actually listening, not just waiting for your turn to talk. Put off a vibe that tells her that she can tell you anything. Make her feel safe.

7. Give gifts as a surprise. Anyone can buy a gift for a birthday, Christmas or an anniversary. Listen to her when you are out window shopping, and if there is something she likes, and it's within your price range, remember it and surprise her with it when she least expects it, for no reason at all. Or pick something up on your way home from work, and tell her you were thinking of her when you saw it. It doesn't have to be big or expensive--a book you know she will like, or a CD of her favourite band are nice gestures.

8. Be her greatest supporter. Be someone she knows that she can always count on. Be there for her when she has had a long day. Listen to her with attentive eyes and ears. Back her up "100" percent! And always protect her, both physically and emotionally. If you have done something to hurt her, even if you didn't mean to, tell her you are sorry and show her affection. This must be sincere! There's nothing worse than an "I'm sorry" that is put on or phoney.

9. Understand that your personal relationship should be more important to you than your other family members, work, friends etc. She is your partner in all things. Treat her as such. If you're worried about looking independent in front of them, then talk with your wife and set clear expectations about what decisions you can make without each other, and what decisions must absolutely be discussed. But also, ask yourself why you feel you should look independent instead of married. It may not be hard to say "Let me talk this over with my other half".

10. Do your part. Don't make her ask you to pull your own weight around the house. This makes her feel like a nag, and it creates an adult/child relationship. Which is never good. She is your partner not your mother. Show her she can count on you to get things handled.

11. Don't show her even the mildest forms of contempt. Contempt is poison in a relationship. You don't have to act like you like what she said or did, but do not take on an attitude of superiority, even subtly in passing, such as momentary smirking, sighs of disgust or eye-rolling. Such gestures, though seemingly insignificant, deeply show a lack of support, respect and trust, especially over a period of time. The way you naturally act towards her should subtly validate her as a person, even when you do not understand or agree with her. Giving eye contact when she has something important to tell you shows respect; not giving eye contact shows disrespect and that you don't care about her or what she has to say. This will destroy any attempt to communicate well.

12. Seek responsibility and take responsibility for your actions. The main difference between a man and a boy, and adult and a child, is that men are responsible. Men honor their commitments, accept their duties and are accountable for damages they incur, debts they owe and claims they make. Men clean up after themselves (figuratively and literally). Men know that anyone can father a baby but only a man who understands and accepts responsibility can be a good father. Men refuse to make anyone do anything they themselves are unwilling to do. Sometimes men make sacrifices for the people they love and care about. That's life. It's part of growing up, whether you like it or not. The difference between a man and a boy is that a man steps up to the plate, while a boy hesitates or complains.

TIPS:
1. When she's upset, listen, listen, listen. Resist the urge to offer advice unless she asks for it, and don't get defensive. Just listen, and show her that you are trying to understand. If she is upset with you, don't just try to give her a hug like nothing happened. If you approach her like you understand what she is saying, that you will try harder (really mean it), and that it will be alright she will be willing to accept your gesture more easily.

2. Don't try to "fix" everything. Men are fixers, but women don't want us to fix everything. They sometimes need to do that themselves and just need you to listen.

3. Husbands and Wives live together but make sure you spend enough quality time together. This means laughing, talking, just having fun together. Make her see that wherever you are you feel like home when you are with her.

4. Praise your wife in public, but if you notice something you'd like to comment on, please find a private moment. Don't criticize! Make concerns known in a diplomatic positive way. It is VERY important to women about how they look to other people. Do Not make her look like the "bad guy" or that there is something you don't agree with(even if there is). The appropriate time to discuss those matters is when it is just the two of you, not in front of people when she will be embarrassed. In public make sure everyone around you knows she is your girl! Hold hands whenever possible, kiss, hug, a tap on the butt, etc. To her you are letting everyone know you're off the market.

5. Be aware that she may not perceive love the same way you do. Quality Time, Gifts, Physical Touch, Verbal Affirmation, and Acts of Service are the different "Love Languages" you and your wife might have -- make sure you find out what hers is, and speak her "love language"!

6. Discuss your financial dreams together and research and plan to achieve them together.

7. Tell her what you think, don't assume she knows. When you think she looks nice, tell her, when you are thinking you are lucky for having her, tell her. She does not assume these thing to be true & needs to be reminded often.

How to Have a Lasting Relationship with Your Foreign Wife Whom You Dated Online ...

Many women found the love of their life through online dating. The number of foreign women who married men overseas is tremendously increasing. For these women, their lives had totally changed when they were brought by their husbands in a foreign country. Their experiences may vary and it could be positive or negative depending on the kind of men that they had met online.

It would probably be good that they will take time in knowing each other more since this is a long distance relationship prior to making a serious commitment like marriage. Any couple need to consider that reality will only set in when they live together as husband and wife and there are may be lots of challenges and difficulties when you marry anyone who come from a different culture, tradition and beliefs. Although this will always depend upon the couple on how they will strengthen their relationship to make it last.

1. Consider how lonely your foreign wife in a foreign land away from her family and friends so try to provide her a computer or laptop with an internet connection and headset so that she can communicate to the people important to her whom she had left behind. Always bear in mind that she had left these people because of you so try to consider this.

2. Respect the country that she was born into, her beliefs and culture. Never try to put her down when you talk about her country and the things that she values and believes in. Don't be like those men who are only good when they were still dating these foreign women online but by the time they had brought them to their country and married them, this is the time that they will talk openly against them. Not all foreign husbands do this and hopefully the number of abused foreign wives had decreased.

3. Never ignore your foreign wife when she is talking. Sometimes it takes patience to be with her because she has difficulty in understanding your language. She may have tremendous difficulty especially if you will talk a bit faster because this is what you're used to. Try to give her ample time to learn the language or better yet, enroll her to a language class so that she can understand more of her second language.

4. Be considerate, loving and committed in doing whatever is necessary to fix any problem within your married life. In this way, your foreign wife may not feel the tension that she is already experiencing from all of the things that she needed to adjust.

5. Support her financially without making her feel guilty that she has not contributed anything for the bills and the everyday needs for the household. Most foreign wives had left or resigned from their jobs when they decided to marry their husbands who live abroad so give them a chance to adjust more, encourage them to prepare themselves for work and take good care of them because they see their foreign husbands as the only people who can truly understand their present situation.

6. Respect your foreign wife even if she can't speak your language clearly. She is still your wife no matter what and she can sense if you truly love her if you treat her with respect. It is always true that with respect comes love and if your intentions are pure then your foreign wife will love you even more.

7. Be true to your promise when you were still dating online that you will love her with all your heart and cater to her needs as her foreign husband. Avoid shouting at her when your angry. There will be times that you will get upset, this can happen in any relationship but try to make a good effort to change so that have a lasting relationship with your foreign wife whom you met online.

July 12-13, 2010...

July 12, 2010- registration date of my annulment in the LCR here in my place...
what i did here is that i just submitted the docs. come from the court and LCR where my annulment was granted, and they gave me a docs. too that is sealed in an envelop to be submitted to the NSO-main...

July 13, 2010- registration date of my annulment in the NSO-main...

i just got back from manila and here's what i did when i registered my annulment to the NSO-main, just sharing hope it helps...

Step 1: fill up the pink form

Step 2: go and fall in line to screening area B (CDLI)

Step 3: CDLI Payment ( Area B ).. windows: 25,26,27..

DONE!!!

will be back for my annotated MC after two wks.

Requirements when registering the annulment in the NSO..

July 11, 2010...

finally complete docs. sent to honey via LBC for our K1 re-file this month... yay!!!

tina

Cert. of Finality...

i am sooo sooo happy today!! i got all my docs. now all docs. are ready to fly to honey tomorrow... done with my annulment now were doin the K1 again... Guide us Lord!!!

tina

July 8, 2010

Finally my Cert. of Finality is already released today!! and if the LCR in Cavite will issue the cert. of the registry then my lawyer will gonna send all my docs. to me today!!! yahoo!!! thank u Lord sooo much!!!

July 5, 2010

well i had a very busy day on this date, i prepared forms for our k1 bcoz by this wk. i will gonna send all my k1 docs to honey including all my docs. on my annulment... plus the fact that its monday i was very busy too at the office, we had lots of transactions too.. its the day that we planned to get my Cert. of Finality, but the court didnt issue yet my COF coz the problem is the return card of the letter for the respondent is not yet arriving in the court where the annulment was granted.. all return cards are already there in court including the return card from the Sol. Gen. in Manila only the return card from the respondent is not... so what i did i under time on my work and went at once at our post office and requested for a certification telling that the letter is already delivered to the respondent, the letter contained, where, when, and who... and i immediately sent it to my lawyer, today she will gonna get the certification from the post office and today too she will go to court in cavite to ask for my COF...

will keep posted on the updates...

July 07, 2010...

well i really had a busy day today, coz alone tellering and i had lots of transactions too.. but the most important is i received a very good news this afternoon from my lawyer.. my Cert. of Finality will be issue tomorrow for sure and my lawyer will register my annulment tomorrow at once in LCR in Cavite... and by friday the cert. from the LCR in cavite will be release too...

i am ready with all my docs. all i am waiting is my COF... only a few nights and i will gonna have it too... wooot-woooot!!!

God bless us all....

July 2, 2010.. My Friday...

well i really had a wonderful day today coz i received a good news from my lawyer... the last time we talked last week i thought she will just request for my Cert. of Finality by next week but when we txted today she told me that she will get the Cert. of Finality by monday and we can finish too the annulment registration in cavite by wednesday... i am excited to see honey again tomorrow on our love time... its my surprise news to him for tomorrow hehehe... i can't believe that i will gonna send all my documents to honey by next week too... now we can send the packet earlier.. as what honey said: " now we can really move forward... "

tina

June 11, 2010... Release Date of my CD...

This date is very important to me coz my Court Decision was released on this day... when my lawyer confirmed me tru txt that my CD will be release on this date i am teary eyes and i was very happy... after my work i directly went to the church to give thank's to God and say thank u to all the people who prayed for me.. i told my fam and friends about it and they are very happy with the result.. i even cant wait to see my honey online coz i am very excited to tell him that i got my CD... on that night, morning to US, i keep calling my honey coz really i cant sleep if i didnt tell him what is the great news... and finally he picked up his mobile, its a brief conversation with him but of course were both very happy... the next day we see each other online and we have a very happy conversation.. i am soo happy when i heard from him that he is very happy for us now... that he cant wait to see me again and we will gonna expedite my papers... really me too, ic ant wait to be with my honey again, i miss him very much.... he is truly a gift from God... i am sooo blessed to have him in my life... oh gosh really its a good feeling that someone is caring and loving u... I LOVE YOU MY HONEY SOOO MUCH.. AND I SAID IT SO MANY TIMES BUT I WILL SAY IT AGAIN.. THANK U SOO MUCH...

My Annulment Timeline...

After me and honey talked about the annulment i at once looked for an atty., i called my aunt and luckily she referred to me to her friend who is our provincial atty. right now she and her husband made me an appointment for him, atty. D.G..
atty. D.G said that its very few annulment was granted on our RTC in my place... plus the process of sooo long.... so he referred to me to his friend in Manila, who is my atty. right now...
atty. A.M.G.G, she is very kind to me and have compassion on my case... below is the time frame of my annulment...

Met Online: Jan. 2009
Went to PI: Feb. 10, 2009- OMG!!! He is real!!!!
Got Engaged: Feb. 14, 2009- Happiest Valentine's Day ever!!!!
Backed to USA: Feb. 19, 2009- sad... happy...
I-129F Sent: May 01, 2009- 1st Petition
NOA1: May 05, 2009
NOA2 Approved: Sept. 2009
NOA2 Mailed by USCIS to NVC: Sept. 20, 2009
Oct. 07,2009- Letter received from US Embassy Manila, but we didn't pursue the approved petition... i didn't go to my med. and interview but instead i:
Oct. 20, 2009- took psychological exam...
Oct. 22, 2009- filed the Declaration of Nullity of Marriage
Nov. 06, 2009- summon was served to my X
Dec. 04, 2009- fiscal hearing (did for less than 5 mins., Thank God!!)
Dec. 14, 2009- respondent's hearing ( of course no one showed up,Thank God again!!! )
Jan. 20, 2010- received Notice of Cancellation of K1(got this after 1 month)
Feb. 18, 2010- Pre- trial ( done!!!, attended only by my Atty.)
Mar. 22, 2010: 1st trial (postponed date hearing due to the declaration of local holiday in cavite )
April 8, 2010- Re-set date of 1st Trial (done!!! yiippeee!!! only did for less than 15 mins.)
April 12, 2010: 2nd and last trial (done! attended by my psychologist and my atty. )
Re-solution: DONE!!!
Court Decision: June 02, 2010
Previous K1 was totally closed by USCIS: June 23, 2010
Certificate of Finality Released: July 8, 2010
LCR- Imus, Cavite: July 08, 2010
LCR- Quezon: July 12, 2010
NSO: July 13, 2010
Complete docs. sent to Honey via LBC: July 11, 2010
Complete docs. received by honey: July 16, 2010


Thank you Lord for the smooth process of my annulment, thank u honey for supporting me on this process and thank you to all my relatives and friends who prayed for me... God bless us all...:)

Miles Away...

After a month he visited me and backed in US he filed a K1 visa for me, though i am not annulled yet, we used all terms of communication, chat, call from landline and mobile, e-mail, yahoo messenger, snail mail... it was difficult, not easy to be far away from your love one... we have misunderstandings too... were not a perfect couple but in the end we can fix it... and i really thank God for that...

his petition for me was approved and reached here in the US embassy manila... but in the end we realized that its not right thing to do... very risky for both of us... we didnt pursue the approved petition but what we did is he withdrew it and i filed for an annulment. its for our future and happiness together... thank's to God that we still given the chance to make it all right this time... i love you sooo much honey...

July 12-13, 2010...

July 12, 2010- registration date of my annulment in the LCR here in my place...
what i did here is that i just submitted the docs. come from the court and LCR where my annulment was granted, and they gave me a docs. too that is sealed in an envelop to be submitted to the NSO-main...

July 13, 2010- registration date of my annulment in the NSO-main...

i just got back from manila and here's what i did when i registered my annulment to the NSO-main, just sharing hope it helps...

Step 1: fill up the pink form

Step 2: go and fall in line to screening area B (CDLI)

Step 3: CDLI Payment ( Area B ).. windows: 25,26,27..

DONE!!!

will be back for my annotated MC after two wks.

Sample Questions on a K1 visa interview...

1.When and how did you meet your fiancé?
2.When did you met in person?
3.How long have you known each other?
4.When and where was the last time you met your fiancé? Where?
5.When did your fiancé propose?
6.What do you love about fiance?
7.When are you goin to travel to the USA?
8.Have you ever been to the USA?
9.When is your b-day and where you are born?
10.When is your fiancé b-day and where was your fiancé born?
11.What does your fiancé do for a living?
12.Where does your fiancé work?
13.What is your fiancé designation at work?
14.Does your fiancé have any brothers and sisters?
15.What are the names of your fiancé’s parents?
16.Where do your fiancé live?
17.Where do your fiance’s parents live?
18.Do you have any brothers and sisters?
19.When did your fiancé divorce?
20.What do your parents think about this engagement? Do they approve of it?
21.Why did your fiance’s first marriage didn’t work out?
22.Does your fiancé have any children?, How many? How old? And do they live with your fiancé?
23.Are you willing to take care of your fiance’s children if they live with him?
24.When and where are you goin to have the wedding?
25.How much time have you spent together?/ how many visit did your fiancé made?
26.Did you have any engagement party?
27.Did you make a formal announcement of your engagement to family and friends?
28.How do your families feel about your plans to get married?
29.Do you know his landline phone number? Mobile number?

I- 129F Cover Letter..

I-129F Cover Letter

[PETITIONER ADDRESS]

United States Department of Homeland Security
U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services
[ADDRESS OF YOUR SERVICE CENTER]

[DATE]

Nature of the submission: I-129F ORIGINAL SUBMISSION
To Whom It May Concern:
Enclosed please find my Form I-129F, Petition for K-1 Fiancé[e] Visa for [BENEFICIARY NAME], and supporting documents.

Contents include:
- Payment in the amount of $ [PUT IN CORRECT FEE].
- I-129F
- I-129F Supplement: Part B, Question 18, explanation of meeting in person
- G-325A and passport style photo (Petitioner)
- G-325A and passport style photo (Beneficiary)
- Birth certificate/US Passport (Petitioner)
- Letter certifying intent to marry (Petitioner and Beneficiary)
- Proof of having met in person in the past two years
- Proof of ongoing relationship

Copies of documents submitted are exact photocopies of unaltered documents and I understand that I may be required to submit original documents to an Immigration or Consular officer at a later date.

Signed,
[PETITIONERS SIGNATURE]

First Meeting and Visit..

My awaited day... feb. 10, 2009.... US time honey hopped on the plane goin here in the Phil., the following day feb. 11, 2009, 11pm landed via PAL at NAIA... i am waiting outside together with my uncle and grandma for honey... my grandma saw him first and she asked me if is that foreign man?.. for awhile i didnt saw him bcoz he was covered by a big post, and finally i saw him, he is wearing a black pants and a red shirt... talking to one of the employees at the airport, i can't talk all i can say to him is hello mark!!!, he said hello too.. and he kissed my grandma's hand.. then we all went to the van for us to go home... sigh.. it will be a long drive coming here to my place from manila... we first dropped by to money changer to exchange some dollars, on the way i dont talk often only my uncle, i dont know what to say and i am shy to him... on the van he kissed me, kilig hehehe... we dropped first to our house bcoz my mom and my other family is waiting there and mom cooked good food for us... then after an hour we went to the hotel.... i borrowed my grandma's car and we hired a driver... then we spent one wk. together, i really love to prepare foods for him.. i love to watch him while he sleeps, i love his fragrance, i love to see his face, i love to kiss my honey and just be with him... i uploaded some of our pics. that will show what we did together with my family on his 1st visit here...

Feb. 19, 2009, his flight goin back to US, this is a sad day for me, i really cried bcoz i dont want him to go and leave me, i really miss him soooo much, the hug tight and kisses at the airport, i really miss my honey.... on that visit i made sure of myself how much i love my honey...

Our Love Story...

Me and Honey met online last year, Jan. 2009, on a dating site called asianeuro. i can't forgot that day that i met him online... i clicked him to chat with me, and asked him for his e-mail add. so i can add him to my yahoo messenger. at first he is not replying me maybe he is very busy looking on the site for other pretty girls out there online hahaha... so i closed the window for chat bcoz i thought he is not interested but i am sooo surprised when his window for chat connected to my account, he asked me to send him my picture and infos. about my life... i always see him online and i always sent him a friendly message, bcoz i am at work i cant chat with him for sooo long and by that time he told me that he already have a gf, after a few days he told me that if he will visit my country i am the one he wants to visit, but maybe he is not sure bcoz he dont see me on cam, maybe he thinks i am not real or maybe he thinks i am a gay hahaha... on the 6th day i saw him online and by that time i already have a cam... i sent him again a friendly message and my cam... and he was surprised, on that spot he told me he likes me to be his gf and his instincts are right, he told me i am beautiful hahaha... and on that evening started all.... we chatted for hours, and he adjusted on my time... on the third day he sent me a txt message saying open my personal e-mail bcoz he have a surprise for me, so when i got to work i opened at once my e-mail and looked for his surprise.... oh my God!!, i am really surprised!!, and i am really sooo happy bcoz i didnt expected that he will do that early.... he hired an agency based in Hawaii who will fix my documents so i can go to his country as K1 visa... on that week also he sent me a bunch of red roses... but God tested us... he left me for 4 days bcoz we had problems, but after that days our love keep us together again.... and on that day he decided to come here in my country... exactly one month after we met online he is here already in my place visiting me...