how to be a great wife...

1. First get to know what kind of a person u are

To expect anything from your husband, first try to know yourself - what you are, what you can give in your relationship and what you cannot…. because you cannot expect from him the things, you urself cannot do for him. For instance, if you cannot withstand him having a relationship with any other woman outside your marriage, then how can you dare to expect that he will allow you to make boyfriends? Its well said:

“Treat others the way you want yourself to be treated………”

Always think twice, before you make heavy demands or complain for something which you otherwise have never been able to fulfill, if asked for.

2. Do not ignore your own feelings

Do not ever agree on what you do not believe in, to avoid further frustration. You must feel good to do good or this will encourage negative vibes between you two. With this; you will start feeling yourself being misunderstood.

But this does not mean that you straightaway reject what your husband asks you to go for, rather the situation demands from you that initially, you say ‘okay’ whether somebody else is present or not, and try to express yourself later on about what you think about the matter, so that he should be able to understand your feelings. Give each other some time for better understanding.

Your instant opposition will make him feel offended thereby presenting a wrong image of yours in his mind. He will think that you do not respect him due to which he will never be able to give you that much respect.

3. Stay ever charming n attractive!

Young lady, do not ever dare to neglect your oomph….factor. The only thing in you that can always make you feel wanted n appreciated, is your sexual confidence. It will never let your husband crave for anybody else outside your marriage. If you want your husband to remain attractive as ever, then he also expects the same from you to make him proud.

Some women take, the love of their husband, for granted and never bother their own fading physical charm. Such women remain in the illusion that love is blind; “whether I look attractive or not, he will always love me.” And here only, they commit a big mistake; love can be blind but not your man….. Men need to see what they want to touch. So, dear, just think once again, before its too late.

4. Say yes to love-making at least once a week

Love-making is in fact, one of the main ingredients that build up a long-lasting marriage. Avoiding it may play havoc with your married life. So, try to respect the physical desires of your husband; do not take it as being something vulgar or obscene. After all, being more than mere husband-wife, you are life partners and if both of you wont be open with each other then with who else you will express ur physical desires.

Actually, men are more expressive in this matter as compared to women. So, if you consider your husband's physical demands as being vulgar, then he will feel offended and start seeking a better company outside. So, its time to change your attitude. Try to play with each others bodies; after all it’s the basic need of a human being. So, move ahead and let your sexiness overrule your senses and see the magic it brings to your relationship!!!

5. Devote some quality time to each other

Everyday, ask each other if any of you two felt bad about something in general. Then try to support and assure that you are always there for him, whatever happens. But being a good wife, never expect him to say anything first. Why don’t you break the ice. Maybe next time the initiative is from the other side! So, change your attitude and enjoy each other’s company.

6. Have some tolerance power. Don’t give up so easily

A bit of patience in a good relationship advice to keep your marriage working. It gives you a ‘no problem’ kind of an attitude which has been proven to be a hit formula many a times. When you are cool, your husband can’t carry on his argument for longer.

And the other way is to love yourself for what you are and what you do……don’t panic, if you are a housewife or a working woman. Try continuously to make yourself better n better instead feeling inferior, rather be always on a mission to improve yourself each day, with every experience.

But what will you do if your husband still keeps offending you in front of others? Definitely, your answer will be, “I will give up…” isn’t that so?

But no dear friend, its not so easy to live alone, whatever you say. In this situation, you should arrange sometime to spend with each other, at any cost, and you just say (not complain), “dear, have I done something very wrong? Please let me know….. I will never do so again because I really love you and can’t see you being irritated with me. Why do you offend me in front of others? Have I ever done so with you? Infact, I always respect you so much then what is there that makes you behave in such a manner?” Inspite of this, if he pays no heed, then its up to you. You are free to do whatever you feel is right. The only thing is, not to give up so easily. Try your best, and if all useless, then just follow your instinct.

The only thing is don't ever give up unless he makes you sick or drives you crazy. After all, nobody is perfect. Even if he's 51%, keep him.


7. Praise your mate whole-heartedly

Make sure that you praise your partner at least once every day. Try to mention new things that you really admire in your partner. This will definitely work for your relationship. Being sincere in your way of complimenting your partner, you can give a new direction to your relationship because nobody from outside is going to take pains to save your marriage. After all, who cares! Its only you and your husband who can do something.

See, what happens after 40, when your kids are away for studies, then your husband becomes more willing to share his own feelings and experiences with you. As a matter of fact, when men get older, they need more cherishing, and in the case of women, they need more respect. But life comes in phases and plateaus; you can’t have it all today only. You should save some for tomorrow. Your family is such a precious gift that will keep on giving back throughout life. So, be a good team member.

And if you follow this relationship advice to become better, then I assure you that other women will start becoming jealous of you on hearing your husband saying,

“I am proud of my beautiful & wise wife. She is the best.”

Now its up to you, how you make your dream come true…… all the very best to you!!!